Things A Son Should Know Before He Turns 18 and Leaves Your Side

Family and friends know how much I love making lists. From list of things to do to list of things to live by and lists of what to buy today or in the near future. I write articles with all kinds of lists that have included the list of the most beautiful liberal art colleges to smart and beautiful politicians and even the most worthy WAGS. So when I read an article with a list of what one mom believed she must give/teach her son, I loved it. Though I do not remember if it was a blog post or an article but it certainly stayed in my mind and I vowed that one day I would make one for my son.

As my son grows older there is a certain satisfaction in me because we have come this far but there is also a degree of fear that my kind of rearing may have done a damage or two. Looking at my son and how he interacts with society, I think I can give myself a pat because he turned out right.

Still, I can’t help but worry that in the future he might make a mistake. Am not saying he is not entitled to make mistakes, it is a fact of life that we often make mistakes and we must learn from it. There are mistakes though that should not be made if only we have ingrained these facts for them.


Here is a list of must-not and must-do’s that I thought any son should know before he turns 18 and leaves the home.

  1. The world does not revolve around you. You are just a speck in the microcosm, so don’t expect people to do things for you. You have to work hard to reach your goal; nobody is going to hand it to you. Be aware of what is going around you.
  2. The old lady next to you is someone else’s mom. Open the door or carry her bag and remember that someone else may be doing it for your mom, right this very moment.
  3. Real men wear aprons. The stove, oven, dishwasher, washing machine, iron, the brooms and mop, do not recognize the hands that use them. Learn how to use all these appliances. It may save you from hunger and dirty clothes one of these days.
  4. You do not have a maid; learn to pick up your dirty clothes. And let me say again, that goes the same way for the things that comes out of your mouth.
  5. When you make a promise, keep it. Your word of honor is something to be proud of.
  6. Keep yourself clean, shower daily, trim your nails, and use your deodorant. Do not wear anything from the dirty laundry basket.
  7. It’s alright to get mad but it is not right to use your fists to settle disagreements. Then, read #8.
  8. It is okay to make a stand especially on issues that matter even when everyone else is silent. Know what these are. And know when it's time for drastic measures.
  9. Treat girls as they are meant to treated; they have brains as well as personality, not just bodies.
  10. There has never ever been a good reason enough for you to break up with a girl over the phone. Have the decency, and guts, to talk with her personally.
  11. Break up first before you get into another relationship. Remember you have cousins and you would not want any boy to treat them that way, too. Karma is a bitch.
  12. Real women do not look like Victoria Secret angels. Just take a look at your mom.
  13. Always keep a condom in your wallet; it can save your life.
  14. Don’t drink and drive. If you are drunk, never get behind the wheel.
  15. You are never too old to use the good manners you learned when you were young.
  16. You were taught table manners, too. Use them.
  17. Peer pressure is something all of us have experienced. You will, too. Resisting the pressure and dare to be “man enough” to participate in something wrong will be difficult. The pull to be one with them is a temptation that will be hard to resist. Resisting though will make a man out of you and surrendering to such a “dare” is cowardice. Read #8.
  18. Texting while driving is a big no-no. SEXTING is a bigger offense.
  19. NEVER use the words gay and black in a derogatory manner. Respect people no matter what race, faith or preference, they are people just like you. Treat them as you want other people to treat you.
  20. Admitting your fault or mistake does not make you less of a man. So does showing your feelings or crying.
  21. It would be so beautiful if you can and will always win but this is reality, learn to accept losing with grace and dignity. And never, ever cheat just so you could win.
  22. Enjoy life, in fact, live life to the fullest. Be happy and know that I am always here for you.
  23. And lastly, be the man that I believe you are. Be true to yourself and stay true to who you are. 
  24. Always remember, I love you. 
  25. But, that does not mean you no longer have to call me up every now and then. Like I have always said, moms worry.

Note that this is not in order of importance because I feel that these are all important for my son to know. I know that I have always tried to listen to my son because I know that they also want us to know something and Have written about it in my post all children want their parents to know. Sometimes because we are older and because we are their parents we tend to become dogmatic about what we want and expect them to simply follow. I was a daughter once and know that I did not listen to everything they told me, but I did listen to the most important lessons, and pray that my son does, too.

While looking for a photo to include in this blog post, I saw this beautiful and inspiring blog update 25 Rules for Mothers of Sons and I knew I just had to comment and include this in my post, especially for new mothers, though anyone can actually adapt this list, whether she has a son or daughter.

via Motherhood.Ultimate.Career. on Pinterest.

For those with their own list, do share it with me and all the other readers. 

KONY 2012: Make Kony Famous


KONY 2012 from INVISIBLE CHILDREN on Vimeo.

Make Joseph Kony famous. 

This is the new call to action by the non-profit organization Invisible Children whose mission is to educate people about the ongoing war in Central Uganda, who wants to make the world's worst living criminal famous so that people will know and care enough to bombard policymakers in doing something to stop Kony and his army.

Over the past 26 years, Kony has abducted more than 30,000 children. He and his army rapes the girls and turns them into sex slaves. He arms the little boys with guns and forces them to become foot soldiers and do horrible things including killing their own parents. They mutilate people's face by cutting off their nose, ears and lips.

As a mother I can only imagine the horror their parents are experiencing. 

So I am making a stand and I am counting on you to help me. Let us all work towards a better tomorrow for our children. By showing the world who Joseph Kony is and what diabolic and perverse atrocities he has been doing. By reminding our policymakers, our government that even if our country is not threatened by Kony himself, still we need to act and stop something that we utterly know is wrong. By participating in our Make Kony Famous campaign.

To know more, you can go to the following sites:
Join IC  on Facebook
Follow IC on Twitter

Watch, share, and sign-up. Volunteer, donate,and get the KONY 2012 Action Kit which you can use on April 20, 2012 when people from all walks of life in different cities of the world cover the night with posters and stickers of Joseph Kony to Make KONY Famous.

Incandescent Enchantments Ongoing Giveaway

One of the blogs I follow has an ongoing giveaway and am so excited about my choice which is The Goose Girl by Shannon Hale although I am also interested in 3 other books, one of which is Once a Witch by Carolyn MacCullough. For those interested to get any of the following:

  1. The Lying Game by Sara Shepard
  2. The Goddess Test by Aimee Carter 
  3. The Demon Trapper's Daughter by Jana Oliver
  4. The Sweetest Thing by Christina Mandelski
  5. The Girl in the Steel Corset by Kady Cross
  6. Once a Witch by Carolyn MacCullough
  7. The Faerie Path by Frewin Jones
  8. The Goose Girl by Shannon Hale (The Books of Bayern #1)
  9. Matched by Ally Condie
  10. Enna Burning by Shannon Hale (The Books of Bayern #2)

Please just go to this link below and join, instructions are available for you.
http://incandescentenchantments.blogspot.com/2012/01/100-follower-giveaway-international.html

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